Grief and solace in disasters. Finding Solace - Solace as an approach to the adjustments and transitions of grief ‘it is that which brings hope in the future in the face of despair’ (Klass, 1992). Understanding solace in a disaster situation - Disaster research on Western countries sees grief as complicated, solace difficult to achieve (as can’t do the usual things like say goodbye). Coping is through talking about the experiences and individual psychological counselling (Raphael, B. 2012). Disaster research on non-Western countries focuses on cultural characteristics as source of coping and solace (strong religious beliefs, strong communities etc., which naturally generate the social space to talk with others as a form of witnessing in which ‘comfort was sought and gained through the process of sharing experiences of suffering’(Kanayake et al., 2013). Coping (solace) is supposed to come through talking...
War and natural disasters share many features including great loss of life, traumatised populations and haunting memories. The Christchurch earthquakes were the third most costly event of 2011 with total costs of up to $NZ30 billion. Many homes, communities, families and an established way of life have gone for ever. The paper comes from the Women’s Voices project that documents women’s narratives of earthquake trauma and loss and examines their profiles of emotional expression associated with coping. For these women in Christchurch, solace is not about talking experiences of suffering but by doing practical things that inform and are shaped by existing personal narratives. As they relayed this common arc, they also entered into national (and gendered) narrative themes of being practical, stoic, independent and resourceful in the face of tragedy and loss and so embody communal aspects of coping with loss and grief particular to the New Zealand even ‘the South Island settler’ identity narrative. These narratives suggest it useful to rethink key concepts that inform our understanding of coping with disaster and loss.
Former drama teacher and casting director Rosie Belton (right) has a motto she lives by: "When all else fails - cook!" Her new book Wild Blackberries explores her life through food. It's about how food enhances the feeling of celebration, and comforts in times of sadness. Having lived through nearly four years of earthquakes in her hometown of Christchurch, Rosie tells Wallace Chapman about why the kitchen and dining table provided so much solace in such unstable times.
